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Monday is Parenting Affirmation Day! 5-14-2012

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It’s Monday, May 14th- Parent Affirmation day at Help 4 Your Family! Today’s affirmation is one I use a lot:

I give my children age appropriate time and space to solve their own problems.

This affirmation is good for many kinds of situations.  One is watching our children struggle with something.  This affirmation helps us to remember that there are some struggles that are age appropriate and that our children will benefit from resolving on their own because they want to learn it.  Rebecca from Mom Meets Blog writes about this in her sweet post about her son that you can read here.

Another situation where this affirmation is helpful is when our children are struggling with something and do not want to learn it- but we know it is age appropriate for them to do so.  A child who works really hard to get to you to give him the answers to homework assignments would be an example of a time when you can repeat this affirmation to yourself to remind yourself that you are helping, not hurting, your child by allowing them to experience the struggle.

Also, I use the words “age appropriate” purposely.  I find that as parents we sometimes forget that as sophistocated as our children may seem, that there are some expectations that may not be age appropriate- expecting a 10-year-old to clean the kitchen to the same standards as an adult, or telling a child they must work things out with a bully at school who is threatening violence are two examples that come to mind.

Saying this affirmation over and over throughout the day makes it become a part of you and of your regular parenting practice.

When have you had to use an affirmation like this?

Do you have a parenting affirmation you would like to share?

Related articles:

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May 14, 2012 - Posted by | affirmations, help for parents | , , , , ,

6 Comments »

  1. Great post and so important to keep in mind always. Thanks for the shout out 🙂

    Comment by Mom Meets Blog | May 14, 2012 | Reply

    • You are welcome. I was glad to have a good example. 🙂

      Comment by help4yourfamily | May 14, 2012 | Reply

  2. Reblogged this on Licensed Mental Health Counselor and commented:
    Another great post I will be passing along and sharing with parents!

    Comment by licensedmentalhealthcounselor | May 14, 2012 | Reply

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