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Parent Affirmation Monday- sleep 9/10/2012

Written by, Kate Oliver, LCSW-C


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How often do we argue with our children about going to bed? Every night? We argue with them because we know that getting enough sleep each night is important so that they can have a healthy, productive day the next day. As parents we all go through a time of wonder as we watch children fight sleep at night and naps during the day while we are on the opposite end wishing we could take that nap, or thinking how much we would like to go to sleep at 8 pm! At the same time, we engage in some of the same battles internally about sleep.

How often do you find yourself sitting in front of the television or trying to get one more thing done while thinking you need to turn off the t.v., or put down the work and go to bed? I personally remember sitting up and either folding clothes, or watching television or both, while knowing I needed sleep more than anything else. I also remember when my kids were little, I would stay up later than I knew was good for me and I would say to myself, “This is the only time I get for me in a day! I’m going to get some “me time.” Meanwhile, my “me time,” that included staying up too late, cost me my patience, my positive attitude, and sometimes even my health. People who get enough sleep are happier, healthier and more productive at work, and at home. Did you know getting enough sleep is even tied to maintaining a healthier weight? It is because when your body is trying to please you by staying awake as you tell it you would like to, it requests foods (like carbohydrates and sugars) that will give it a little more pep.

So, this week, I would like us to do positive affirmations for sleep. I would also like to give you an exercise you can do for yourself and for your children. I learned this from Wayne Dyer. For the last five minutes before you drift off to sleep, instead of thinking of all the things you did not accomplish today that you meant to, and stressing out about all you have to do tomorrow that you are not looking forward to, pick something that is a goal for you. Lie in your bed and imagine that your goal has been achieved. Think about how it feels to have achieved your goal. This sets up your mind for a positive day the next day and helps you to have fewer anxiety dreams if that is a problem for you.

This weeks affirmation is:

I give myself the gift of getting as much sleep as my body needs. I teach my children positive sleep habits by modeling them.

I know some of you are out there saying that you would sleep better if your children did. If this is an issue for you, I would recommend the book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, by Marc Weissbluth. My friends and I secretly call this book Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Mommy. This book covers sleep issues at all ages and stages. While some people have stated that they think the book advocates allowing children to cry it out, a closer read will show that this is not what the author actually says. He advocates looking for your young children’s signs that they are sleepy, teaches you what those signs are, and gives you guidance in how to educate yourself and your children about sleep. You can find his book on Amazon by clicking the link titled Amazon Widgets at the top right of this page to go directly to amazon.

Sweet Dreams.

September 10, 2012 - Posted by | affirmations


  1. I may give this a try!

    Comment by Boy Mom Blogger | September 12, 2012 | Reply

    • I would love to know how it goes and whether you gift yourself with a more peaceful day the next day. If you do, please let me know and we can post it on the wall of Awesome Parenting 🙂

      Comment by help4yourfamily | September 13, 2012 | Reply

  2. Even though I’m tired a lot, I always have a hard time falling asleep – not sure why. Thanks for the tip!

    Comment by shannon2818 | September 12, 2012 | Reply

    • Hi Shannon, Thanks for commenting. You might want to also see if you are missing your sleep window, that is the window of time during which you are best able to fall asleep. If we do not go to bed when our bodies tell us we are tired but force ourselves to stay awake for just a bit longer, our body gets the memo that we want to stay up and tries to make that happen even when we are very tired. Good luck 🙂

      Comment by help4yourfamily | September 13, 2012 | Reply

  3. Sleep is so important for the brain, not just something for someone who feels they get enough. Whether you realize it or not, your thinking skills the next day will be affected by the amount of rest you got the night before. Even if you do not realize it because you are in a robotic like work pattern and are use to doing the same thing everyday. Funny they say you are not paid to think, so you only need so much sleep just enough to be active. That is very unhealthy and will affect brain health over time.

    Comment by Justine | September 15, 2012 | Reply

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